Writing a eulogy or funeral speech can be a difficult task. It is important that the person writing the speech knows or is at least familiar with the person that he or she will be writing about. Funeral speeches should always emphasize only the positive aspects of a person’s life, but the speech writer may also choose to describe a difficult time when the departed person rose to the occasion.
If the writer has had positive experiences with the person, he or she may want to include one or two of those encounters in the speech. If the writer did not know the person well, he or she may want to talk to those who did and include some of their stories when writing the eulogy. It is always best to keep the speech short as there may be others who want to speak about the departed.
The writer can also do some research on their own to see if they find any other positive, interesting information about the person’s life. Always check the facts that you choose to include to be sure that they are accurate.
Many people choose to include the reading of a poem in a funeral speech. One popular poem that the writer can use is the traditional Gaelic blessing:
May the road rise up to meet you.
May the wind be always at your back.
May the sun shine warm upon your face; the rains fall soft upon your fields and until we meet again, may God hold you in the palm of His hand.
Finally, the writer may want to talk briefly about friends and family and how much they meant to the departed person. As always, be brief, positive and check all of the facts to be certain that what you have included in your eulogy is all true.
What is a eulogy?
A eulogy is simply a funeral speech about a lost loved one. It is usually given by a family member, but it can also be given by a member of the clergy.
It can be thought of as a conversation with family and friends about the life of the person who has died.
What should be included in funeral speeches?
• Things like a brief life history of the person who has died (such as when they were born, what they enjoyed doing, etc.)
• Favorite memories involving the person who has passed away
• Details about family, friends, and work
• The achievements that the deceased considered very important
There are some basic steps that can be used as a guideline for writing a fulfilling eulogy.
• Write a brief chronological outline of key events in the person’s life from birth to death as well as any events the person went through that may be worth mentioning.
• Make a list of some of the things that the deceased was passionate about.
• Write down all your favorite memories of the deceased
• Combine all of these thoughts into a giant list and then decide which to keep in your speech.
• Organize the remaining thoughts in some type order.
There is not really a time limit or length limit so it should flow as naturally as possible. Emotion is something that isn’t discouraged in these types of speeches.
Even poetry can be used if it’s related to the member of the deceased.
It can help to make note cards and practice the flow in a mirror. This can also reduce anxiety
It is best to think of being selected to do a eulogy as an honor. It’s indicative that you were particularly spec